I m totaly agreed wit wt is written over in this mail.but if only one side case is this means first all wer good both have same happenings as mentioned in the mail in their relationship not each point mentioned but most of the things but both were good frnds only as they thought but NOT OTHERS.
but then one of them (boy or girl) changed his or her behaviour,other one also realised it & that person also had accepted that changed behaviour but get hurts every now & then.tries to avoid but cant do it successfully.now my question is wt was the fault of that other person.only that he or she realised late that it was love? & even if he or she realised it before at that time also if that other one dont love him or her wt was its use nothing?now what that other person should do?it was not his or her fault definately.May be thats called life……..always happens which we had never expected…….only solution is that person should accept to live with all wt life is giving him or her some day some good will surely happen………& if he or she loves that other person then if that other one is happy wit wt present situation is then he or she must be happy that the person whome he or she loves is happy……what more can one have if a person to whome he or she love is happy……
I’ll assume the one who is getting hurt is you & the other person is your beloved person!
Yes it’s true that love hurts when you don’t get what you want. I personally feel that you should never have changed. you loved him for what he was with you. so if he is changing I think you should talk with directly with him. let him know what is happening to you and what is affecting your relation. he would understand and be as he always was with you, if he really loves the way you love him. Else two ways for you to think:
1 – you love him intensely and that should be the only thing that matters to you even if he doesn’t love you!
2 – he was never made for you. think that GOD has something much more beautiful for you ahead. so be positive.
I know that you must be thinking…..’saying it for someone is so easy but not to experience it oneself’! but mine is much worser story than you. so you can be sure that m not just telling you ‘just like that’
You r alive this time, so why don’t you propose him if you really love that guy so much? m telling you this coz i dnt want u to think later ‘what if i would have proposed him then?’ this question can haunt you for years…..listen to your heart…..TRAD DAY IS COMING UP(a nice time). and if you want my help anytime, u r always welcomed dear.
yes, one more thing. it’s you who’ll decide your own destiny!!!
and dnt regret what you did and what you did not. be firm.
well the sent before i was ready, but uhm, i dont know if im in love or this is a crush. i nevr had a crush, or been in love so im even more confused!, i met this guy on runescape, a online game!! wich is crazy, well i gave him my home phone number because he had to go off to the marines, he was going to boot camp. three months later, he called, i thought he would just forget about me but i guess he did not. i added him on skype, we have video chatted and typed back and fourth alot. and i guess i started likeing him more than i should!, its so confusing! he told me stories of girls who said they liked him befor, i assumed to keep me from likeing him, but then he tells me his wishes and tells me not to tell any one, makeing me feel special, he lives halfway accros the country rom me and he said he was going to come visit me”he said this before he went to boot camp” i guess we avoided the topic forever but then it came up, we decided he should come on the 4th of july, but now he changed it to may 1st!! he said things changed, and he wants to celibrate my birthday early. and he made me chose between may1st or nexy year! and when i asked him for help deciding he said “i have to know that you really want it, i cant help you decide.” so i chose may 1st, then he said i did not expect you to pick that one, so i said if you cant i can wait, then he said if i kept saying that that he would think i did not want him to come, then on valintines day we talked a bit nothing extrodinary then the next doy i got on he said he had to get off his brother wated on, then he has not been on”talking to me” since! but this girl on runescape keeps saying she has been talking to him! and that he practicly asked he out after he added her on skype, when ever she talks about him i feel aful. my skype has not been working so i cant tell if hes been on that, he has my cell phone and when he said he had to get off he said he would text me but has not! i know i have no right to know why he stoped, at first i thought maybe he left for advanced traing for real this time” because last time he was about to go his good bye was “what if i dont say goodbye, he talked as if it was a long time off and just left!” but for some reasone the post poned it, so i though he just left again, the girl on runescape says she has been talking to him!, and his best friends little brother said he has not left, again i know i have no right to know why but it just hurts! it has been 2 weeks exactly now, i think about him every day, its horribul! this never happened to me before!, could he have just started ignoring me, or could the girl be lieing? but then he has not left because jerry would know if he did! what am i sapose to do!?? im completly confused,he always brought up the fact that he is almost 5 years older than me, sorry this is so long, but do you have any advice
u get hurt when sm1 tells u tht he’s not a good guy and stuff like tht… well that may be love. But please understand yourself – do you really like that guy or is it because you don’t have anybody in ur love life and you want a boyfriend desperately? if sm1 says “he does this with every girl”, it should not bother you if u really like him, but then you don’t want to be “just an option” for him! i think you must go out with him sometime and really get to know him. talking over the phone or online chatting is one thing and being with that guy is something else. please don’t ignore anything that anybody says… try to understand what they say and why. things can be true…. as far as i’m concerned, for what u have written, i think he’s a great guy because he doesn’t seem to care much of one night stands else he’d come to meet u and do it and leave!
thnak you, i think i got thing figuerd out, he is dateing this girl, i think i still like him, but i could never let that stop me from talking to him, he is nice, now that he is dateing her though we dont talk as much, wich makes me sad, im suprised how much it hurt when i figuerd every thing out, my mom said she could tell i liked him a long time ago, i guess i was the last to realy notice. i dont think i will ever really understand it, why i like a guy who obviously could never like me, but apparently every one in my art class keep telling me this guy is flerting with me, yet i feel no attachment. so i think that rules out the desprate. ive never had a boyfriend, i kinda have been expecting to become a cat lady^.^, i think i will always love edgar, but i dont think i will ever let him know,i was getting confused, when he kept telling me deep personal things, but i guess it because ive always been someone people seemed to trust,, i made him promis we’d still be friend when were old though >.< but miss fairy"runescape name" better not hurt him, she is his first girlfriend, and i dont think a guy would come halfway accross the united states to meet a girl just to"do it" though it worrys me, theyve not been dateing long, and for somereason he is really stressed and he wont tell me!, he ushaly dose, he keeps saying later later later! it seems they argu a bit, with looking at couples seems commen enough, but going from always being told to secretive is driving me insane, my hands are shakeing as i type this,. and he did leave a little after valentines day for bootcam advance training, again without telling me, apparently he says he dosenot want to say goodbye, why is this so confusing, god, i need to just go and start collecting cats, there easy to understand
come on… plz don’t hurt yourself. It wasn’t wrong what you felt for him. And yeah, that feeling of helplessness will go away soon… because no matter what happens in life we move on and we should ! And just because the guy u liked wasn’t true to you doesn’t mean everybody is like that. Of course I’m not saying you should trust everyone but at least give other people a chance. The guy that’s been flirting wit you may turn out to be the man of your dreams, who knows??? Please give your life a second chance… You’d be surprised but it happened to one of my friends 5 times in a row! lolz But he still gives a chance to his life…
And one thing for sure, please understand if he’s keeping you as his backup. I mean, you should be his decision not a choice to take. If he’s stressed out coz of smthng, let him be. Why do you worry so much for him now? Do you still want to get him? Or are you over him?
its a long story and i hope to get a more different answer from you. I loved this girl when i was in class 9th. i started talking to her when i was in 11th, proposed to her in 12th and finally got into relationship with her during my 12th board exams. i am a muslim, n she a hindu. she told me that she will handle and that she is very strong. i fell more madly, deeply in love with her. Then her parents came to know and they forced her. she left me but couldnt stay away so she came back again. she left me again when i was in my first year as her parents again came to know and they threatened her. but i reached to see her travelling thousands of kilometers leaving everything. things got settled again. she made a friend about whom she talked about lot. i had a problem but then i was convinced as i trusted her. but then one summer she stopped talking to me. her silence tore me apart and i could not do anything. i tried all ways to contact her but she didnt reply. when she came to college, on 18th july 2010 she left me telling family problem in the most rude way possible and i was left crying in front of her. but then i gained my strength and tried to live on. i again came to see her on her birthday and she spent a whole day with me, our most romantic date till now and that too after breakup. i had already planned and kept her gifts and a handmade photo album for her outside her room. after that days passed and we did not talk. now again one day she called me and told that she is coming to my city for internship. we planned so many things but then her trip got cancelled. then finally it came to that she was doing internship in a city 24 hours from mine. she went there and called me telling she is not feeling good. she wanted to be with me for sometime. we talked all romantic stuffs. one night after talking to her and exchanging flying kisses, i got a message from her which was sent by mistake- “it so tough to talk like the old days, cant be romantic at all. he will be hurt to know that my heart belongs to someone else now.” i went mad. called her and shouted at her calling her cheap and all. i have been fully loyal to her all these days even though i got so many chances. i told that i am still coming to meet her and she has to meet me or i will reach her house. she agreed. i thought of coming here and slapping her, but seeing her i became weak. i could not do anything. she also did not seem like the girl who ditched me and she was talking different about her trip and all. i was silent listening to her and couldnt speak a word. she brought food for me as i had not eaten for 3 days. and she was showing lot of care. Now i am confused as what to do.. what now? what should i do?
First answer this question – Is she really worth the wait?
As far as I understood, unlike her, you are too desperate for her. But did you consider that you could be just a CHOICE for her? If she wants to be with you, she won’t be so confused. I don’t know if that sms was pointing you and was supposed to be sent to some other guy or about some other guy that was to be sent to somebody else, but one thing is for sure that she’s either playing you or really messed up bad… She calls you when sick tells me that she thinks of you in her troubleing times, that’s good, but I can’t see a reason to completely believe so… Every coin has two sides my friend, don’t jump to conclusions all of a sudden just because she spent two hours showing a care for you… You are too subservient… you shouldn’t be…. THE BEST THING TO DO IS TALK TO HER FOR ONCE AND ALL AND MAKE EVERYTHING CLEAR…. SHE MUST KNOW WHAT SHE MIGHT MISS IF YOU TWO WON’T BE TOGETHER… IF SHE THINKS “YOU ARE THE ONE” THEN SHE’LL DEFINITELY COME TO YOU…. ELSE… GET OVER HER !
And when you are done with all of this… ask yourself again – Was she worth the wait?
Thanks a lot. i guess things have settled now. I gave her a note and asked her to take a final decision. If no, then please let me go for good, and if yes, then be with me whatever happens. she chose to be with me. things are going on good now. i hope it goes on well in future too. but yes, we have to see to the religion problem. we are a muslim hindu case with conservative family. and now one more mistake from her side, and i will be gone from her life. i am really tired of holding on and this time i will try to keep the relationship in a better way, no confusions.
I m totaly agreed wit wt is written over in this mail.but if only one side case is this means first all wer good both have same happenings as mentioned in the mail in their relationship not each point mentioned but most of the things but both were good frnds only as they thought but NOT OTHERS.
but then one of them (boy or girl) changed his or her behaviour,other one also realised it & that person also had accepted that changed behaviour but get hurts every now & then.tries to avoid but cant do it successfully.now my question is wt was the fault of that other person.only that he or she realised late that it was love? & even if he or she realised it before at that time also if that other one dont love him or her wt was its use nothing?now what that other person should do?it was not his or her fault definately.May be thats called life……..always happens which we had never expected…….only solution is that person should accept to live with all wt life is giving him or her some day some good will surely happen………& if he or she loves that other person then if that other one is happy wit wt present situation is then he or she must be happy that the person whome he or she loves is happy……what more can one have if a person to whome he or she love is happy……
I’ll assume the one who is getting hurt is you & the other person is your beloved person!
Yes it’s true that love hurts when you don’t get what you want. I personally feel that you should never have changed. you loved him for what he was with you. so if he is changing I think you should talk with directly with him. let him know what is happening to you and what is affecting your relation. he would understand and be as he always was with you, if he really loves the way you love him. Else two ways for you to think:
1 – you love him intensely and that should be the only thing that matters to you even if he doesn’t love you!
2 – he was never made for you. think that GOD has something much more beautiful for you ahead. so be positive.
I know that you must be thinking…..’saying it for someone is so easy but not to experience it oneself’! but mine is much worser story than you. so you can be sure that m not just telling you ‘just like that’
You r alive this time, so why don’t you propose him if you really love that guy so much? m telling you this coz i dnt want u to think later ‘what if i would have proposed him then?’ this question can haunt you for years…..listen to your heart…..TRAD DAY IS COMING UP(a nice time). and if you want my help anytime, u r always welcomed dear.
yes, one more thing. it’s you who’ll decide your own destiny!!!
and dnt regret what you did and what you did not. be firm.
i hope to c a nice couple soon…………………
please exuse my spelling i know ill mess up somewere.
well the sent before i was ready, but uhm, i dont know if im in love or this is a crush. i nevr had a crush, or been in love so im even more confused!, i met this guy on runescape, a online game!! wich is crazy, well i gave him my home phone number because he had to go off to the marines, he was going to boot camp. three months later, he called, i thought he would just forget about me but i guess he did not. i added him on skype, we have video chatted and typed back and fourth alot. and i guess i started likeing him more than i should!, its so confusing! he told me stories of girls who said they liked him befor, i assumed to keep me from likeing him, but then he tells me his wishes and tells me not to tell any one, makeing me feel special, he lives halfway accros the country rom me and he said he was going to come visit me”he said this before he went to boot camp” i guess we avoided the topic forever but then it came up, we decided he should come on the 4th of july, but now he changed it to may 1st!! he said things changed, and he wants to celibrate my birthday early. and he made me chose between may1st or nexy year! and when i asked him for help deciding he said “i have to know that you really want it, i cant help you decide.” so i chose may 1st, then he said i did not expect you to pick that one, so i said if you cant i can wait, then he said if i kept saying that that he would think i did not want him to come, then on valintines day we talked a bit nothing extrodinary then the next doy i got on he said he had to get off his brother wated on, then he has not been on”talking to me” since! but this girl on runescape keeps saying she has been talking to him! and that he practicly asked he out after he added her on skype, when ever she talks about him i feel aful. my skype has not been working so i cant tell if hes been on that, he has my cell phone and when he said he had to get off he said he would text me but has not! i know i have no right to know why he stoped, at first i thought maybe he left for advanced traing for real this time” because last time he was about to go his good bye was “what if i dont say goodbye, he talked as if it was a long time off and just left!” but for some reasone the post poned it, so i though he just left again, the girl on runescape says she has been talking to him!, and his best friends little brother said he has not left, again i know i have no right to know why but it just hurts! it has been 2 weeks exactly now, i think about him every day, its horribul! this never happened to me before!, could he have just started ignoring me, or could the girl be lieing? but then he has not left because jerry would know if he did! what am i sapose to do!?? im completly confused,he always brought up the fact that he is almost 5 years older than me, sorry this is so long, but do you have any advice
u get hurt when sm1 tells u tht he’s not a good guy and stuff like tht… well that may be love. But please understand yourself – do you really like that guy or is it because you don’t have anybody in ur love life and you want a boyfriend desperately? if sm1 says “he does this with every girl”, it should not bother you if u really like him, but then you don’t want to be “just an option” for him! i think you must go out with him sometime and really get to know him. talking over the phone or online chatting is one thing and being with that guy is something else. please don’t ignore anything that anybody says… try to understand what they say and why. things can be true…. as far as i’m concerned, for what u have written, i think he’s a great guy because he doesn’t seem to care much of one night stands else he’d come to meet u and do it and leave!
thnak you, i think i got thing figuerd out, he is dateing this girl, i think i still like him, but i could never let that stop me from talking to him, he is nice, now that he is dateing her though we dont talk as much, wich makes me sad, im suprised how much it hurt when i figuerd every thing out, my mom said she could tell i liked him a long time ago, i guess i was the last to realy notice. i dont think i will ever really understand it, why i like a guy who obviously could never like me, but apparently every one in my art class keep telling me this guy is flerting with me, yet i feel no attachment. so i think that rules out the desprate. ive never had a boyfriend, i kinda have been expecting to become a cat lady^.^, i think i will always love edgar, but i dont think i will ever let him know,i was getting confused, when he kept telling me deep personal things, but i guess it because ive always been someone people seemed to trust,, i made him promis we’d still be friend when were old though >.< but miss fairy"runescape name" better not hurt him, she is his first girlfriend, and i dont think a guy would come halfway accross the united states to meet a girl just to"do it" though it worrys me, theyve not been dateing long, and for somereason he is really stressed and he wont tell me!, he ushaly dose, he keeps saying later later later! it seems they argu a bit, with looking at couples seems commen enough, but going from always being told to secretive is driving me insane, my hands are shakeing as i type this,. and he did leave a little after valentines day for bootcam advance training, again without telling me, apparently he says he dosenot want to say goodbye, why is this so confusing, god, i need to just go and start collecting cats, there easy to understand
come on… plz don’t hurt yourself. It wasn’t wrong what you felt for him. And yeah, that feeling of helplessness will go away soon… because no matter what happens in life we move on and we should ! And just because the guy u liked wasn’t true to you doesn’t mean everybody is like that. Of course I’m not saying you should trust everyone but at least give other people a chance. The guy that’s been flirting wit you may turn out to be the man of your dreams, who knows??? Please give your life a second chance… You’d be surprised but it happened to one of my friends 5 times in a row! lolz But he still gives a chance to his life…
And one thing for sure, please understand if he’s keeping you as his backup. I mean, you should be his decision not a choice to take. If he’s stressed out coz of smthng, let him be. Why do you worry so much for him now? Do you still want to get him? Or are you over him?
plz tell me the most romantic place in pune for couples only.no crowdy.no public are there.
its a long story and i hope to get a more different answer from you. I loved this girl when i was in class 9th. i started talking to her when i was in 11th, proposed to her in 12th and finally got into relationship with her during my 12th board exams. i am a muslim, n she a hindu. she told me that she will handle and that she is very strong. i fell more madly, deeply in love with her. Then her parents came to know and they forced her. she left me but couldnt stay away so she came back again. she left me again when i was in my first year as her parents again came to know and they threatened her. but i reached to see her travelling thousands of kilometers leaving everything. things got settled again. she made a friend about whom she talked about lot. i had a problem but then i was convinced as i trusted her. but then one summer she stopped talking to me. her silence tore me apart and i could not do anything. i tried all ways to contact her but she didnt reply. when she came to college, on 18th july 2010 she left me telling family problem in the most rude way possible and i was left crying in front of her. but then i gained my strength and tried to live on. i again came to see her on her birthday and she spent a whole day with me, our most romantic date till now and that too after breakup. i had already planned and kept her gifts and a handmade photo album for her outside her room. after that days passed and we did not talk. now again one day she called me and told that she is coming to my city for internship. we planned so many things but then her trip got cancelled. then finally it came to that she was doing internship in a city 24 hours from mine. she went there and called me telling she is not feeling good. she wanted to be with me for sometime. we talked all romantic stuffs. one night after talking to her and exchanging flying kisses, i got a message from her which was sent by mistake- “it so tough to talk like the old days, cant be romantic at all. he will be hurt to know that my heart belongs to someone else now.” i went mad. called her and shouted at her calling her cheap and all. i have been fully loyal to her all these days even though i got so many chances. i told that i am still coming to meet her and she has to meet me or i will reach her house. she agreed. i thought of coming here and slapping her, but seeing her i became weak. i could not do anything. she also did not seem like the girl who ditched me and she was talking different about her trip and all. i was silent listening to her and couldnt speak a word. she brought food for me as i had not eaten for 3 days. and she was showing lot of care. Now i am confused as what to do.. what now? what should i do?
First answer this question – Is she really worth the wait?
As far as I understood, unlike her, you are too desperate for her. But did you consider that you could be just a CHOICE for her? If she wants to be with you, she won’t be so confused. I don’t know if that sms was pointing you and was supposed to be sent to some other guy or about some other guy that was to be sent to somebody else, but one thing is for sure that she’s either playing you or really messed up bad… She calls you when sick tells me that she thinks of you in her troubleing times, that’s good, but I can’t see a reason to completely believe so… Every coin has two sides my friend, don’t jump to conclusions all of a sudden just because she spent two hours showing a care for you… You are too subservient… you shouldn’t be…. THE BEST THING TO DO IS TALK TO HER FOR ONCE AND ALL AND MAKE EVERYTHING CLEAR…. SHE MUST KNOW WHAT SHE MIGHT MISS IF YOU TWO WON’T BE TOGETHER… IF SHE THINKS “YOU ARE THE ONE” THEN SHE’LL DEFINITELY COME TO YOU…. ELSE… GET OVER HER !
And when you are done with all of this… ask yourself again – Was she worth the wait?
Thanks a lot. i guess things have settled now. I gave her a note and asked her to take a final decision. If no, then please let me go for good, and if yes, then be with me whatever happens. she chose to be with me. things are going on good now. i hope it goes on well in future too. but yes, we have to see to the religion problem. we are a muslim hindu case with conservative family. and now one more mistake from her side, and i will be gone from her life. i am really tired of holding on and this time i will try to keep the relationship in a better way, no confusions.
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